Disclaimer: Yes, I did ask Marty's permission before writing this blog!!!
Some of you might be aware that Marty and I are currently partaking in a marriage course. Of course, this is something that I signed us up for, and Marty found himself at (somewhat baffled at how he got roped into being there). Although we would like to think that we have a pretty good marriage, I am aware that there is always opportunity for improving and growing a good thing to make it even better. That's what athletes do to improve their game, and I figure that our marriage is a pretty important game. So we rocked on up to our first night on "the marriage course" last week. Last week we had a good giggle as we discovered new things (and not so new things) about each other....but this weeks session was a biggie - "The Art of Communication".
Poor Marty. As most of you reading this know, my husband is not a talker. That would be my role in the relationship. As my mother would say "When Marty talks, you listen - because he only talks when he has something to say". Well, according to that idea, Marty mustn't have a lot to say. And he would agree with that. Talking is not his strong point. This picture about sums up a conversation with Marty:
BUT I am not the only one in our marriage who struggles with the art of communication though. Marty admits that he is not so good at filtering out distractions and actually focusing on the conversation at hand. He is wired a bit like this:
I rest my case.
Gosh. How on earth have we managed to get through 9 years of marriage like this?! In our defense, we do have our strong points - we have (semi regular) weekly 'date nights', we 'hang out' a lot together..and I think we are good at discussing the things that really matter...
...but possibly not so good at listening just for the sake of being there for the other person - with no agenda to fix the problem, give opinions on the matter or sweep the issues away...but just to listen and be there for them.
This marriage course is turning out to be quite the eye opener!